> Since this was copyrighted over 100 years ago, I think it should be
> OK to reprint.....
> 
> [Note - I think so, too... - ed.]
> 
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> copyright 1894 The Madison Institute.
> 
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> The following is a reprint from The Madison Institute Newsletter,
> Fall Issue, 1894:
> 
>                            INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE
>                                  FOR THE
>                                YOUNG BRIDE
>                                   on the
>                        Conduct and Procedure of the
>                    Intimate and Personal Relationships
>                            of the Marriage State
>                                   for the
>                     Greater Spiritual Sanctity of this
>                   Blessed Sacrament and the Glory of God
>                                     by
>                               Ruth Smythers
>                              beloved wife of
>                         The Reverend L.D. Smythers
>                      Pastor of the Arcadian Methodist
>                  Church of the Eastern Regional Conference
>                            Published in the year
>                               of our Lord 1894
>                           Spiritual Guidance Press
>                                New York City
> 
> 
>         INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE
> 
> 
> To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper
> upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and
> most terrifying day of her life.  On the positive side, there is the
> wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a
> beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing
> a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life.  On the
> negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride
> must pay the piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the
> terrible experience of sex.
> 
> At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth.Some
> young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with
> curiosity and pleasure!  Beware such an attitude!  A selfish and
> sensual husband can  easily take advantage of such a bride.  One
> cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten:  GIVE LITTLE,
> GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY.  Otherwise what could
> have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust.
> 
> On the other hand, the bride's terror need not be extreme. While sex
> it at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be
> endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is
> compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced
> through it.
>   It is useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the
> groom to forego the sexual initiation.  While the ideal husband would
> be one who  would approach his bride only at her request and only for
> the purpose of begetting offspring, such nobility and unselfishness
> cannot be expected from the average man.
> 
> Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day.  The wise
>  bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly
> during the  first months of marriage.  As time goes by she should
> make every effort to reduce this frequency.
> 
> Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best
> friends in this matter.  Arguments, nagging, scolding, and bickering
> also prove very effective, if used in the late evening about an hour
> before the husband  would normally commence his seduction.
> 
> Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of
> denying  and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband.  A
> good wife should  expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a
> week by the end of the first year of marriage and to once a month by
> the end of the fifth year of marriage.
> 
> By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their
> child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all
> sexual contacts with the husband.  By this time she can depend upon
> his love for the  children and social pressures to hold the husband
> in the home.
>   Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as low
> as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to limiting the
> kind and degree of sexual contacts.  Most men are by nature rather
> perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a
> variety of the most revolting practices.  These practices include
> among others performing the normal act  in abnormal positions;
> mouthing the female body; and offering their own vile bodies to be
> mouthed in turn.
> 
> Nudity, talking about sex, reading stories about sex, viewing
> photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting sex are the
> obnoxious habits the male  is likely to acquire if permitted.
> 
> A wise bride will make it the goal never to allow her husband to see
> her unclothed body, and never allow him to display his unclothed body
> to her.  Sex, when it cannot be prevented, should be practiced only in
> total  darkness.  Many women have found it useful to have thick cotton
> nightgowns for themselves and pajamas for their husbands.  These
> should be donned in separate rooms.  They need not be removed durning
> the sex act.  Thus, a minimum of flesh is  exposed.
> 
> Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she
>  should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom.  When he comes
> groping into  the room she should make no sound to guide him in her
> direction, lest he take this as a sign of encouragement.  She should
> let him grope in the dark.  There is always the hope that he will
> stumble and incur some slight injury which she can use as an excuse
> to deny him sexual access.
> 
> When he finds her, the wife should lie as still as possible. Bodily
> motion on her part could be interpreted as sexual excitement by the
> optimistic husband.
> 
> If he attempts to kiss her on the lips she should turn her head
> slightly  so that the kiss falls harmlessly on her cheek instead.  If
> he attempts to kiss her hand, she should make a fist.  If he lifts her
> gown and attempts to kiss her anyplace else she should quickly pull
> the gown back in place, spring  from the bed, and announce that
> nature calls her to the toilet.  This will generally dampen his
> desire to kiss in the forbidden territory.
> 
> If the husband attempts to seduce her with lascivious talk, the wise
> wife will suddenly remember some trivial non-sexual question to ask
> him.  Once he answers she should keep the conversation going, no
> matter how frivolous it may seem at the time.
> 
> Eventually, the husband will learn that if he insists on having
> sexual contact, he must get on with it without amorous embellishment.
> The wise wife will allow him to pull the gown up no farther than the
> waist, and only  permit him to open the front of his pajamas to thus
> make connection.
> 
> She will be absolutely silent or babble about her housework while his
> huffing and puffing away.  Above all, she will lie perfectly still and
> never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in
> progress.  As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise
> wife will start nagging him about various minor tasks she wishes him
> to perform on the morrow.  Many men obtain a major portion of their
> sexual satisfaction from the peaceful exhaustion immediately after
> the act is over.  Thus the wife must insure  that there is no peace
> in this period for him to enjoy.  Otherwise, he might be encouraged
> to soon try for more.
> 
> One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact
> that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have
> been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep
> sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to
> the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half
> cowed and subdued.  The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and
> relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate
> completely her husband's desire for sexual expression.
> 
> copyright 1894 The Madison Institute.
>